By Petra-Ann Brown, Brown Financial Services
We have a saying: “Humble calf suck the most milk.”
It’s a reminder not to be boastful or showy, to move quietly, stay grounded, and let your work speak for itself. That lesson runs deep for many of us raised in Jamaican households.
But what happens when that humble calf is you, and you work hard, earn well, and genuinely enjoy nice things?
And let’s be honest… is it really “flashy,” or do you simply value quality?
Labels, Fear, and Money Mindset
As people, we love labels: flashy, bougie, extra, show-off.
Sometimes it’s not the labels themselves, it’s the fear of being labeled that keeps us playing small, limiting growth, or dimming our light.
I’ve never been attached to brand names. Durability and comfort matter more to me than logos. That may come from how I was raised, humility was emphasized, and attention was something you avoided, not chased.
That mindset shaped my relationship with money.
When Humility Meets Visibility
Recently, I’ve had to confront that mindset.
As a business owner, visibility matters. Potential clients and partners want to see the work, understand your impact, and know who you are before they trust you. That means sharing, not bragging, but documenting.
For someone taught to “stay humble and quiet,” this has been a major mindset shift.
I’m learning to share intentionally.
That doesn’t mean sharing my entire life. Privacy still matters. As my mom would say, you must keep a piece of yourself for your sanity.
But growth requires adaptation.
Sometimes humility must grow into confidence without apology.
The Financial Lesson: Spend With Intention, Not for Approval
Here’s the money lesson beneath it all:
Your money is your money.
As long as:
- Your emergency fund is in place
- You are actively paying down (or have paid off) debt
- You budget and tell your money where to go
How you choose to enjoy your money is your decision.
If you want a luxury car, and it fits your financial reality, that’s not irresponsible. Just make sure the purchase is for your enjoyment, not external validation.
Because while someone may say, “Nice car,” you’re the one responsible for the payments, insurance, and maintenance.
Affordability is about sustainability, not appearances.
Where I Choose to Indulge
For me, indulgence looks like experiences.
I value memories. I’ll pay a little more for closer seats at a play or an extra excursion on vacation. Those moments matter to me, and they align with my values.
That doesn’t make one choice better than another.
It makes it intentional.
Final Thought
Humility does not mean hiding.
Enjoying your money does not mean being reckless.
And spending is not the enemy, misalignment is.
Let your money reflect your values, not other people’s expectations.
